Who's in control?

I had always heard that men were fixers and that women were nurturers.  I couldn't have been more wrong about myself.  When addiction struck our home I went into full fixer mode.  I wanted everything better and taken care of.  Of course if our son went into rehab everything would be taken care of and we could get over this evil beast.  I began to ride the emotional roller coaster and found myself emotionally wrung out.  I have learned over the last year and a half that I have no control over anyone or anything.  The only thing that I can control is myself and my own reactions to the life that I have been given.